HARMONISING THROUGH THE FATHER’S LOVE

Looking at the following scriptures, Romans 8:35a talks about who shall separate us from the love of Christ? We love Him, because He first loved us 1 John 4:19. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another see 1 John 4:10-11 NKJV. It is so obvious here to see the kind of love with which God loves us; this love is unconditional to mankind and the primary reason for its demonstration is because He is love. God's kind of love or what is called the love of the Father has expressed through Christ Jesus who is the Son of His love (is translated from the Greek word Agape) this kind of love is very unique in all expression.

BUILDING FRIENDSHIP WITHOUT BARRIERS FOR THE SINGLES

This is a good season of your life to align your daily existence with God’s priorities and find real fulfilment by living a poured-out life and most importantly, to embrace friendship that I called “the helpers of destiny” with those who are in the same pursuit of common goals. 

The fact that friendship is at its best, not in prosperity, but in times of troubles, gives birth to a healthy friendship and obviously you need one like that who will be there for you in all the statistics of life; for friend get sticker than a brother.

UNDIVIDED LOYALTY OF A SINGLE CHRISTIAN

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Vocationally, the wisest choices are taken up by the single, since his or her single loyalty is not dual like the married, who might not sleep through the night, making plans and altering it the next morning, since she has to care for the domestic, logistics,  the husband or the wife and more so, the children who needs attention accurately. The singles have great time to explore their worlds to the fullness. They can easily take up unusual endeavours in different spheres of life just because their focus is without walls of distraction. So many debates come up between the married ones if a call to missionary station steps in or other adventures, such that might require the husband or the wife to leave the vicinity for a long time. Hence, it becomes so hard to let ones partner leaves for such a long time.  

WHAT DOES GOD SAY ABOUT SINGLENESS?

In 1Corinthians 7: 25-40, Paul does not exalt the single state above the marriage state but, he does has a personal preference and argues all groups of the unmarried to consider the wisdom and spiritual benefits of single life. Although being single or when unmarried embodies no superior moral virtue to the married couples or do the married couples superior either. Genesis 2:18 tells us that it is good to marry and 1 Corinthians 7:1 tells us that it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Neither state is inherently better or holier than the other. The paramount thing is for a believer's spiritual life to remain constant and intact in an unredeemed, changing world.

MONOGAMY BEYOND SAMENESS

Relationship can be wearisome, if it suffers lack of varieties. Many-a-time, we clearly know what to do, but we actually don’t take a step to do it. It is worthy of note, that we choose to be in this partnership, and yes, sometimes take it for granted and we even unintentionally destroy it in the attitude of complacency. Do we take time to check if the love for our partner is appreciating every day, since it is the yardstick to foster a cutting-edge relationship?  There shouldn’t be any bargain to that.

To live beyond sameness in our relationships, amazing things like or beyond what we used to experience at the beginning of married must not cease. Such things as we have known before must appreciate. Remember, marriage itself is a school where you get the certificate before you start; a school where you will never graduate; a school without a break or a free period; a school where no one is allowed to drop out; a school you will have to attend every day of your life and a school where is there is no sick leave or holidays. It’s indeed a school founded by God on foundation of love.

GOD’S DEALINGS FOR THE SINGLES

Experiences have revealed that many things are taught well to our recess innermost being with time. When issues of life are so overwhelming and we tend to assume we know all about a given situation, alas! As time goes on, we realize our inability to comprehend it all until the fullness of time has come. So, it is evident here that time validates the mastery of an experience.

Time is designated in the spiritual to bear or envision us till we reach the fullness of the purpose of the ever-dynamic God. Now, to follow God's time and to reach His designated intended end, like what Habakkuk 2:3 says:  vision (can be marriage in view) which is yet for an appointed time; shall come to bear in travailing of experience which the good Lord want you to learn so that you might gain stature and status that will consummate to a profound future marriage you have anticipated for. Hence, to stay indifferent to this preparation time is to anticipate for almost unavoidable failures in the future home. Avoid mechanisms that want to excuse the Lord’s dealing for your life at this time. Failures to allow the Lord’s hand on you to work out His desires for your life may devalue your future set goals for His kingdom. This time is programmed to bring about your maturity and more so, for an outstanding features that depicts God’s glory and to the perpetual shame of your adversary the devil.

WHY GOOD RELATIONSHIP IS KNOWLEDGE BASE

The knowledge one has about one’s spouse is so significant in adding beauty to their relationship. The three realms that govern a believer spiritually also come to play in our relationships with our spouses. These are:

The realm of believing,

The realm of knowing (revelation knowledge),

And the realm of loving.

Our believe system must be alive to God in our relationships. In other words, you must continue to believe that the Lord has established your relationship. It is when your believe system is appreciated, that the good Lord will unveil the knowing system, which is the revelation knowledge of your spouse, and in knowing her; you can best gain a profound insight into the loving system. People that navigate in this pathway never know insignificant day in exploring good relationship. Then, the furtherance in the knowledge of your spouse is directly proportional to your every day romantic life.

HOW TO EXPLORE AND ENJOY THE WORLD OF SINGLENESS

Ultimately, the world of singleness is mainly constituted in the following: one who is widowed, single parent or one who has not met "Mr. or Ms. Right". It’s altogether important that one is aware of his/her uniqueness in the eyes of the Heavenly Father who designate time to all things inherent in the believer's life and more also is thoughtful to know that nothing takes God unaware in the phases of our lives’ situation.

Anyone who does not understand the blessings and benefit accrued to the world of singleness may by default feel forgotten by God, but in reality, such one’s livelihood is core to the Lord's heart. Of a truth, waiting can be very difficult but at the same time one must come to this rest:  that God has not abandoned him/her; only that He wants you to listen and learn what He has designated to teach you in this phase of your life. Meanwhile, one is supposed to manage his/her desire for marriage until such individual meet the right person by the leading of the Spirit and to stand strong in the face of sexual temptation. Remember that, Marriage is honourable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4. In order to guard against sexual immorality, God has ordained the sacred relationship of marriage; which is a good prospect for the singles and the widowed alike.

HOW TO REMOVE MONOTONY OF MONOGAMY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Dictionary describes monogamy as either the practice of being married to one person at a time, as opposed to polygamy or bigamy. In marriage, monogamy exists as long as a couple has intimate relationship with, and they remain faithful to, each other. 

But in practice, monogamy has come to mean much more than just marrying one person at a time, or not having sex with anyone else. The idea of monogamy (which is also sometimes referred to as compulsory monogamy) is something that describes a relationship that can only take place between two people and is also a sphere where individual’s spiritual life, emotional, sexual, and social needs are met by the person they partner with. Thus, people who claim to be in a monogamous relationship but flirt around or maintain outside relationships (even non-sexual ones) may be thought to be behaving in a way that is a threat to monogamy.

KNOWING WORD EFFICACY

                                              

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Speaking the right word has always been the total fall of the enemy at any given time. The words of our mouth get things done when it is appropriately expressed in the light of the Word of God. All that has ever existed on the face of the earth came forth by the spoken word see John 1:3 and is it evidenced that Christ is the word of God; through Him all things were made.

He gave us the authority of His word to bring forth the mysteries that are always the winning way in disarming the works of darkness. All believers will experience fruition as a result of the word spoken.